!CSEX:Lets talk about Sexual Abuse

I was asked by Bibledude.com to take part in a blogging project over at Idea Camp in connection with their !CSEX event, and because I recently finished up a Book Review project on Sexual Addiction, I agreed to participate in this weeks topic on Sexual Abuse.

To be perfectly honest, these blogging projects both excite me and scare me at the same time. Though I am excited and honored to be a part of these writing projects, I have to confess and admit that I never expected and am even still, a bit perplexed that I agreed to write on the topic of Sexual Addiction & Abuse. The Lord knows what He is doing and has His own agenda as to why I am even a part of these discussions. If all this talk about sex, especially coming from me, is confusing some of you, then that makes two of us.

In preparation of this event, I have had quite a few one-on-one, heart-2-heart, Me + God Time-Out Sessions. I desperately needed His Divine Insight, Wisdom and Guidance on exactly what I needed to share on this blog, on this topic.

I started working on this project as soon as I received the email invitation and rather quickly wrote up a brief history of my personal & private experiences on the issue of sexual abuse. I then went on to create my childhood-to-adolescent-to-adult trauma and abuse timeline, and before long I had written a full-fledged, tell-all mini series of events with explicit details included. As I read and relived, prayed and revised my blog, I sensed that neither of these were the approach that I was being lead to write as my final part in this event.

S.E.X. is not exactly a topic that many people are comfortable discussing, and I for one, have never been the kiss and tell type. Especially knowing that my own past and experiences were deeply stained and covered with all the things sex was not designed to be in the first place.  Childhood sexual abuse & trauma has got to be one of the all-time worse, life-changing events, other than death itself, that I personally know of. That innocence can never, ever be replaced or easily forgotten and will always have life-altering consequences, even with the best of counseling and professional help. The enemy is fully aware of the fact that if he can stain and scar a young innocent life early on, his job is already half way done.

If you think your past, your pain, your sins, or your current lifestyle are just too much for God to clean up and restore, think again!!! If He can heal me of my pain, forgive me of my mess, and give me a fresh new start, then He can certainly do the same for you too.

Even though I did not write and share a brief history, a season by season timeline or a day by day rundown of all the mess I experienced and made of my life, just know that it definitely was a huge one, and not only was it a complete and full-on mess, but it was one that God was more than willing and capable of cleaning up. He is not unaware of where we have been and where we are in the realm of things. Please know that I am praying for you to be Set Free and that healing, forgiveness & restoration through the blood of Christ is yours for the asking.

Father I beg of you to draw close to yourself each and every one of your hurting and scarred sons and daughters. Cover them and surround them completely Lord with your Holy Presence. Cause them to feel Your Loving Arms holding them this very minute Lord. I pray that You would cleanse them of all of their sins, each and every one of them, accept their repentance and remove the shame and guilt that plagues them. I pray that You would strip away the bitterness and pain and anger that the enemy would want them to hold on to. Send Your Comforter to minister to their wounds and show them that their scars are beautiful in Your Eyes Father.  Show them Lord, in a tangible way, how much You love them and how much they mean to You Father. Send angels into their lives, to stand with them as they search for Your truth, as they learn what Your purpose for their life is through Your Holy Word. Help them to pick up the crown that You have prepared just for them and to live the life that You intended Just For Them. Set them free Father, by the precious blood of Your Son, Christ Jesus, whose name I make this prayer known. Thank You Jesus for dying on the cross for our sins, AMEN!!!

“No Stones:Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction” by Marnie C. Ferree (InterVarsity Press) FINAL Review

“No Stones – Women Redeemed From Sexual Addiction”, by Marnie C. Ferree is a book of Hope, Healing and Full-On Grace for the female struggling with sexually addictive behaviors.

Sexually Addiction is as real and common as any other addiction or condition and believe it or not, effects just as many women as it does men. Men have always been and still are more easily excused and treated for this condition then are women. Because society views woman with this condition as whores, the overwhelming shame and guilt force many to suffer in silence and secrecy for many years before seeking professional help.

As odd as it may sound, Sexual Addiction is not about sex at all. It is actually an Intimacy Disorder. A false intimacy and a false solution for legitimate needs, driven by pain and loneliness, and NOT by physical gratification.  One with this condition is basically on a desperate search for love, affection, acceptance and approval and not simply looking to engage in the act of sex as the name suggests.

The author helps her reader to identify what the problem is, how/why it came about and more importantly, how to fix it. By disclosing her own personal battle with the condition, Marnie does an exceptional job in bringing to the table as well as the altar, this ever-present and ever-growing condition while providing in-dept information, advise, encouragement and resources for those interested in overcoming this addiction.

Up until I read this book, I had no clue that those women who I once saw as whores and home-wreckers were in fact battling with a real condition that more than likely stemmed from a childhood traumatic experience through no fault of their own. Sisters who were trapped in an endless, generational, merry-go-round ride of abuse and trauma, desperately searching for a way out and more importantly for the helping hand of an understanding and supportive sister.

If you or someone you know is struggling with any type of sex/love/intimacy/relationship issue that fits the criteria of one with Sexual Addiction (see Chapter Six), there is no need to suffer in silence or secrecy any longer, Help IS here!!! And not only Help, but Grace, Forgiveness and another shot at Purity, through the Mercy & Compassion of a Loving Father and the Sacrifice of a Faithful Son.

BOOK REVIEW INTRO

PART ONE REVIEW

PART TWO REVIEW

PART THREE REVIEW

EXTRAS REVIEW